For Parents

Guiding Parents in Discussing Sexuality and Relationships with Children Who Have Learning Difficulties

Many parents may feel uncertain about approaching these topics, and having access to practical guidance is essential and also a big help.

Below, I have compiled a list of blogs and resources that provide evidence-based, inclusive, and practical advice for parents navigating these discussions.

1. Disability Horizons – Navigating the 'Sex Talk' with Your Disabled Teen

This blog provides a step-by-step guide for parents, focusing on building comfort and confidence when discussing sexuality with their child.

Navigating the 'sex talk' with your disabled teen | Learning disabilities

Possible discussion: What did you think about the information in the article? Was there anything that surprised you?"

2. Mencap – Supporting People with a Learning Disability in Relationships & Sex Education

Mencap, a leading charity for individuals with learning disabilities, provides a range of resources for parents and caregivers to help young people understand relationships, consent, and personal safety. Their resources are accessible and easy to use, making them a great tool for initiating conversations.

Relationships and Sex and Learning Disability | Mencap

Possible discussion: Did anything seem confusing or hard to understand? We can look at it together if you want.

3. Sex Education and Learning Difficulties | Integrated Treatment Services

This blog emphasises the importance of sex education for young people with learning disabilities and offers insights into addressing their unique needs.

Sex Education and Learning Difficulties - Integrated Treatment Services

Possible discussion: Do you think the blog helped you better understand your child's needs? / Who else do you think could help your child learn about these topics?

4. My Family, Our Needs – Talking to Your Child About Sex & Relationships

This blog offers 10 practical tips for parents on discussing sexuality and relationships with children who have disabilities. It focuses on age-appropriate communication, consent, and emotional well-being, making it a valuable resource for parents who may not know where to start.

Talking to Your Child About Sex & Relationships | MFON

Possible discussion: Did you find those tips helpful? Which one stood out to you?

Summarised practical tips:

1. Start early and keep conversations ongoing

   1. Begin with simple discussions about body awareness and personal space from a young age.

   2. Use everyday situations (e.g., asking for hugs, sharing toys) to introduce concepts like consent and boundaries.

2. Use clear and simple language

   1. Avoid complex terms—use straightforward words your child can understand.

   2. Example: Instead of “sexual health,” say, “How to take care of your body and feelings.”

3. Use Visual Aids and Social Stories

   1. Books, pictures, and videos can help concretely explain concepts.

   2. Social stories (short illustrated narratives) can show real-life situations.

   3. Example of a short social story:

Once upon a time, a cheerful girl named Lily loved playing with her friends. One day, she made a new friend named Alex. They enjoyed building sandcastles and playing tag together.

Alex said one sunny afternoon, “I like being your friend, Lily! Can we be best friends forever and only play together?” Lily smiled but felt a little confused. She remembered what her grandpa had taught her about friendships—that having space and respecting each other’s feelings is important.

“It’s great to be best friends, Alex, but we can also have our own time and play with other people too,” Lily said gently. Alex looked a bit sad but nodded, saying, “I understand. I like my other friends too!”

Later, Lily’s teacher talked about feelings and boundaries during art class. “It’s important to respect our friends’ feelings,” she explained. Lily proudly shared, “I talked to Alex about having our own time and playing with others.” The teacher smiled and praised her for communicating. "Remember," the teacher added, "true friendship means you can be honest about your needs." Lily felt a warm glow inside, knowing she had done the right thing. She also knew that sometimes, friends need time to process new ideas.

After school, Lily and Alex played tag again and invited their friend Noah to join. They had lots of fun playing together and checked in with each other about what games to play.

That day, Lily learned that friendships are about sharing joy, respecting feelings, and communicating openly. She realised it’s okay to have boundaries, and true friends support one another. Lily also learned that it's important to listen carefully when someone expresses a feeling and that good friends can change and grow together.

4. Focus on Safe and Unsafe Touch

A. Teach which parts of the body are private and who is allowed to help with personal care (e.g., parents, doctors).

B. Use simple rules like: “No one should touch your private parts unless it’s for medical care.”