
BDSM/Kink
I like being spanked when I'm having sex but then I end up feeling ashamed afterwards. Is this normal?
Enjoying some form of pain during sex is completely normal. When our body is experiencing pain, we release endorphins which create a sense of pleasure for us. Spanking is one of the methods to feel that pleasure. Aside from the physical explanation for it, we also enjoy certain forms of pain depending on the context - if you feel safe, you are expecting the painful sensation, you trust the person that is causing the pain, and are allowing them to have control over you; it then becomes understandable why you enjoy being spanked during sex.
However, feeling ashamed afterwards could be due to various different reasons; therefore it is important to delve deeper into why you are feeling ashamed. In situations like such, it is always important to talk to your partner about it and perhaps even consider turning to professional support to learn more about these feelings of shame.
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