General Sex Questions

I have a low sex drive and feel scared of having sex. Can you help me with that?

I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing with your sex drive and the discomfort you're experiencing during intercourse. It's understandable that this situation is causing you distress and uncertainty about how to address it. It's positive that you've already consulted with your gynaecologist and undergone testing, as this is an important first step in identifying any underlying causes for your symptoms.

The burning sensation and irritation you're experiencing during sex could be indicative of a number of different issues, including infections, allergies, or other underlying health conditions. While probiotics can sometimes help rebalance the vaginal flora and alleviate symptoms of discomfort, it's important to follow up with your gynaecologist if you're still experiencing these symptoms despite treatment. Your gynaecologist may need to conduct further testing or adjust your treatment plan to better address your specific needs.

It's also common for physical discomfort during sex to impact one's mental and emotional well-being, leading to a decreased sex drive and feelings of fear or anxiety about engaging in sexual activity. These psychological factors can further exacerbate the situation, creating a cycle of discomfort and avoidance. It's essential to address both the physical and emotional aspects of your symptoms to effectively improve your overall sexual health and well-being.

In addition to continuing to work with your gynaecologist to address any physical issues, it may be helpful to explore strategies for managing stress and anxiety, such as relaxation techniques, mindfulness practices, or therapy. Open communication with your partner about your feelings and concerns can also be beneficial in fostering understanding and support within your relationship. Finally, don't hesitate to seek out additional support from a sexual health specialist or counsellor who can provide personalised guidance and resources to help you navigate this challenging situation. You're not alone, and there are options available to help you address and overcome these difficulties.