General Sex Questions

Is it normal to have sex, but you don't manage to ejaculate at the end?

The normalcy of not ejaculating during sexual activity can vary depending on individual circumstances, physiological factors, and the context of the sexual encounter. While it may not be the typical outcome for every sexual encounter, that does not mean that it is abnormal or uncommon.

Delayed or absent orgasms and ejaculations are common in the general population and around one in three men can experience this at some point in their lives (MS Trust, 2018). A recent study by Rowland et. al (2023) found that the main reasons for this are due to “anxiety and negative emotions”, other reasons included were “inadequate stimulation and low arousal”. Therefore, from this information, it can be inferred that having a comfortable setting is very important. Additionally, the stress and anxiety in your life could be an indication into why you are unable to ejaculate at the end of sex.

How to help?

Reduce your stress

You can do this by practicing mindfulness and inputting meditation into your daily routine. Additionally, you can relieve stress by incorporating exercise into your routine as during exercise your body releases endorphins, which lowers stress and enhances your sense of well-being (Supasitthumrong, 2023).

Consult a trained sex therapist

Seeking help from a professional is something that may help you to relieve your concerns and your partner’s. By receiving counselling, you will be given ways to understand the root of your absent ejaculations, allowing you to create ways to cope and change this occurrence.